Zee Spencer

Choosing Kindness over Condemnation

It's easy when hurt to lash out.
To crush those who caused me pain.

It's hard when hurt to reach out.
To comfort those who caused me pain.

When I choose to be kind, I am forgotten.

When I choose to condemn, I am remembered.

I broker my humanity for a moment of hate.

I trade my dignity for a flash of pride.

This is written in the wake of death threats being made to a woman who stood up for herself. It's written in the wake of a man losing his job for an off color joke. It's written in the wake of the million ways I sell my goodness to my ego.


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